What is success?

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So recently someone tried to offend me. With a rude comment on this website. From time to time people will disagree with me in a comment, and that is fine. Each to their own is usually my motto. However, this particular comment was pretty nasty. Or presumably it was meant to be. It said something about how I must be gutted not to be as successful as other bloggers. Or something to that effect. I deleted the comment as it was clearly wrote just to try to bring me down. It got me thinking though, what is success?

What is success

What is success?

Personally I think that success is something that means different things to different people. Some people would see success as being rich, or earning a big salary. Other people see success as living in a large house, or driving a flash car.

The dictionary definition of success covers a few areas:

  • the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
  • the attainment of fame, wealth, or social status.
  • a person or thing that achieves desired aims or attains fame, wealth, etc.
  • the good or bad outcome of an undertaking.

For me I would have to say that success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. I often set out to hit aims and goals, and frequently succeed. This makes me feel successful. However, success is about so much more than that to me.

What is success for me?

  • Being alive. After two strokes I’m successful at staying alive. Just! 
  • Being present. I’m here, everyday, for my friends and family.
  • Having a nice home. My home is clean and organised. We have a nice roof over our head.
  • Being happy. I’m incredibly happy. I’m so grateful for this life that I’m living.
  • Working a job I love. I adore blogging, and I’m so happy I’ve made this my full-time job.
  • Loving the skin I’m in. This is something that I’m always working on – but I’m doing better!
  • Having my family around me. Our daughter arriving has changed family life so much.

I’m living my best life right now. The best so far. I’m alive, happy, healthy (ish) and I have a wonderful family. I’ve been able to create my own job, working from home, and I’m present more than I ever have been before.

There are some areas of our life that I am working at. Things such as buying a home with a teeny tiny mortgage. Saving a HUGE house deposit. Being a kinder person. These are all works in progress but my success is growing everyday in these areas.

I’m not sure what metric someone who leaves a snide comment uses to measure my success against that of other bloggers but they are wrong. I AM successful. I don’t need to compare myself to others. I’m happy to see others achieving their own success, and living their best life too. I’m not interested in comparing myself to others, or comparison syndrome. I also don’t need the validation of other people to let me know whether I am a success or not. However, when I posted about this on Instagram recently tons of people had lovely things to say about me. And on Twitter and Facebook too. I guess the person who left that comment is in the minority when it comes to my readers and their view of my success! Thanks to everyone who had something lovely to say to me recently.

What is success? I am success. I’m successful. I’m living the life I want to live and I won’t let anybody bring me down. If you are the kind of person who needs to go around writing negative comments online then maybe you’re not as successful as you want to be.

I can find the positive in almost any situation these days. This isn’t the first time I’ve encountered a troll on the internet. Naturally the internet is where such people hang out. I even wrote a post before about 5 types of troll you are likely to encounter as a blogger.

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14 Responses

  1. Rebecca September 29, 2017 / 7:06 am

    Some people are just twats. I think it says something about their own lives when they make comments like that!x

    • katykicker September 29, 2017 / 12:57 pm

      That is very true! Thanks xx

  2. Victoria | Lylia Rose September 29, 2017 / 7:08 am

    Seems like someone is jealous! Not you – the commenter. I had a very similar comment recently, in fact two of them. I wonder if it’s the same bitter person. One saying how I wasn’t as successful as them and also how they had more Twitter followers in a shorter space of time. I just deleted them. I’d rather not compare and everyone’s success is different as you say. I am sharing my own journey and experience and I prefer to only be in competition with myself. These people are either trolls who leave nasty comments for no reason, or they have no understanding of how we should all be working together to bring each other up, not put each other down. I simply hit delete and move on now. They definitely have too much time on their hands if they’re able to waste time leaving silly comments!

    • katykicker September 29, 2017 / 12:58 pm

      Definitely sounds like it could be the same person. Probably someone we know too, how sad!

      I agree about the bringing each other up part, we all have people we dislike but it is possible to co-exist without being a douche all the time! x

  3. Thrifty Lesley September 29, 2017 / 8:49 am

    What a great response to a negative comment. People say things on social media that they would never have the bottle to say to someone’s face

    • katykicker September 29, 2017 / 12:58 pm

      That is so true Lesley! They definitely wouldn’t have the balls to say it to my face either!

  4. Clare September 29, 2017 / 9:51 am

    Someone sounds like they were very jealous. Glad you deleted it. Clearly they’ve nothing better to do

    • katykicker September 29, 2017 / 12:59 pm

      Thanks so much Clare, you’re so right. I think the best thing to do is channel it into something positive – like some more traffic for my website with this post!

  5. Heidi Brown September 29, 2017 / 6:27 pm

    OMG the cheek! You are so right about how you measure success. It is different to everyone. However, if you look at success in how they seem to think you measure it, there’s ALWAYS someone better at something that’s life and that’s not a bad thing, doesn’t that challenge most people to try that little bit harder, go that little bit further? I hate how these people always see competition as a bad thing. I See my fellow bloggers do well and it makes me really happy for them and it makes me want to strive to be as good them, not gutted! However, if we go with how this person sees things, they must be gutted that they are not as a good a Troll as other Trolls cos they certanly haven’t had the response they hoped for from you, Poor rubbish troll!

    • katykicker October 1, 2017 / 7:47 pm

      LOVE this reply. So accurate. When I see someone achieving things that I want I think about the effort they’ve put in, how proud they must have been and I try and work out how to motivate myself or how to achieve more, and get what I want.

  6. Donna October 1, 2017 / 7:36 pm

    I love this post Katy. You’re right – success is different for different people. For some it may mean fame and fortune, for me it’s a nice home, happiness and happy, healthy kids x

    • katykicker October 1, 2017 / 7:38 pm

      Thanks so much Donna! I’m interested in so much more than just money… And I don’t want to be famous! I’d rather be there for my family, and loved ones, and be able to be home with Daisy. It is such a nice feeling to feel so happy!

  7. Suzanne Cox October 21, 2017 / 8:16 pm

    Very true, success means different things to different people. Very hard not to let it get to you though when you get negative comments etc. Also hard not to equate success with money, after all everyone wants more money for whatever reason, but its a balancing act. For what its worth I am really inspired by you, as I am by other bloggers. There is something great about having the flexibility that comes with working for yourself and doing different things to earn money.

    • katykicker October 22, 2017 / 8:58 am

      That is such a lovely thing to say Suzanne. I’m so grateful that this is my job and I get to have this flexibility x

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